-ayn rand, the fountainhead
read this passage about a week ago in the midst of my own understanding of such precarious things; some i was aware of, some i have just gotten to know.
admiration is something that manifests itself in many ways, since its origins are as diverse as those who harbor it. i've realized that an admiration too great becomes noxious for both it's owner and the recipient once it surpasses a casual level. in many ways it becomes a destructive force, especially as noted above; when it is deserved since this carries the implication that it did not happen by chance. does deserved mean that you have worked for it? or to maintain it? i'm not sure, but when it is deserved, there might always be a power imbalance and that is the source of it's adverse effects. i don't think admiration ever ceases to be, either, rather it transforms into other similarly potent methods of perception once it has had reason to react.
in the case of an authentically shared love there may be an exception.